Monday, January 05, 2009

First Day of School

It was the first day of school for Tim...and for me as well... there was so much anticipation and excitement culminating throughout the past weeks... that we have had high hopes that Tim was going to enjoy school...

We didn't have any problems getting the little one out of bed, as he's always an early riser (wakes up around 5am every morning the past few weeks *faint*)... we had breakfast but I found myself hurrying throughout the morning... first I was pushing Tim to finish up his breakfast quickly, then on our way to the school, I was rushing him to walk faster... it wasn't quite a pleasant experience... I must admit and I suddenly recall why some of my friends chose to homeschool their kids...
Probably it's the first day of school, the teachers didn't seem very prepared for the new group of students they were assigned to... one word summed up the one-hour session this morning - CHAOS!

To add to the problem, I had a boy who didn't want to sit by the table after 30mins of playing with blocks, with a video blasting in the background... and the teachers speaking at the top of their voices to draw the kids' attention...parents/grandparents/helpers moving up and down trying to keep the kids still, it didn't help a bit...

Tim looked bored and began throwing tantrums, even with me being next to him, he was ranting about going home... I was at my wits' end... and had almost wanted to walk out of the classroom with the kid... the teachers tried to help but to no avail...with so much attention given to Tim, he just cried even louder *roll eyes*

I was totally relief when it was time to go home... and I've been thinking... did I really made the right move by sending Tim to school at all... hmmm...I've even toyed with the idea of withdrawing him from the school totally and continue with my homeschooling him and to resume the Artful Lil' Hands playgroup...

Have to deliberate on this matter seriously...

26 comments:

stardust said...

Hi mamabliss

It is not uncommon to have kids struggling with the first few days of school. Some like mine can behave or adapt better to the routine when the parents are not around.

pc said...

i guess the first day never easy to both mum n child. on top of that, everyone in the classroom is new and packed. while you are deliberating..., observe him and give him some time to adjust too.

transition is the toughest thing for the little one, so is to mummy.

gambateh!

Anonymous said...

He needs time to adapt to the new school environment, friends and teachers. Weeks or months down the road, you'll see the change in your boy... all the best to Tim and U!!!

Dan and Tina said...

I just wanted to comment on how beautiful your babies are!

blurblur said...

It's only the first day, give him some time to adapt. And i'm sure things will turn out fine. :)

Javier & Jeanie said...

Dun worry Tim and mummy

It's the same for my Javier first day of school too and tat was last year kekeke. When the parents are around the kids will tend to misbehaved. Give yourself and Tim some time to adapt and you will discover changes to Tim. Good Luck :)

Hann Hann said...

not Hann but Hann's Mummy said...

I suppose the rest are right in saying that it's the 1st day and all.

and it is true that children do adapt faster w/o their parents around.

but my cousin did mention that she heard negative reports abt Tim's school. and the party involved eventually changed to my niece's school.

but again, that was quite long ago. and I didn't really ask what's the issue.

Leng Leng said...

Hi Pauline,

I can totally empathize with your feelings. I felt the same when I sent Sarah to pre-nursery 2 years ago. It was heart-wrenching for me, to say the least. I will say give both yourself and Tim some time, and pray hard about it.

Btw, I sent you an email last week, did you receive it?

mamabliss said...

Hi dear Mommies, thanks very much for your encouragement and kind advice... truly grateful for your sharing of your experiences with me... indeed I am totally new to such matters...

We've put in the withdrawal form to take Tim out of the school this morning...and the admin staff also told us the same thing as you all have said... but we have decided to pull him out anyways... :)

I'll be resuming the playgroup and continue to homeschool Tim...

byihui said...

hi pauline, wow so many supporters but m sure u won't mind another one :) anyway, although I agree the first day is always not easy, there are schools with varying levels of quality out there. If you dun see Tim settled in a month or two, or there are warning signs abt the teacher quality, u may wish to look for alternatives? I actually second the idea that he goes to daily school for short few hours and supplemented by u at home. More time for u to take a break and prepare materials for him n missy too.

byihui said...

oops, looks like we posted at the same time hehe...mine appeared just right after yours. u've been doing a great job with him, so all the best!

Angie said...

of course the decision is yours and you know your son best. however, i strongly believe in the benefits of sending children to mainstream school. to me, the pros outweighed the cons by a large margin. social, emotional and life skills are best developed in mainstream school. it will definitely be beneficial to the child for a lifetime. this is my personal opinion and i am just sharing it with you over here.

4malmal said...

It's hard to convince yourself when so many things are pointing to the other way, esp your heart and mind.

All parents want the best for their kids. Here's wishing u all the best in whatever decision u've made.

Anonymous said...

hi pauline, i can understand how you feel and the decision to take Tim out of the school after day 1 experience.

Day 1 is always chaotic if the school has all the newbies from pre-nursery to nursery/k1/k2 all coming in at the same day. For my girl school, they only allow pre-nursery and nursery for first 3 days, so it is easier to manage.

I could not understand why the video is super loud at background, but i hope it is not screening cartoons for the kids like some childcare does. I have a feeling the school is pretty disorganise in handling orientation from your description, it would be easier if the teachers knows what to do with kids coming in, example bringing them into a class, not in an assembly hall on first few days where everyone is settling down.

Day 1 is not easy for both parents and kid who has never been to a formal school. You will see parents, grandma, maids comforting the kids and teachers does speak up abit louder to convey some important message.

Don't give up if you really want Tim to go for school again, perhaps this round you can check with other parents from the school you selected and observe how the school handles the kids especially during assembly.

Going to school has pros and cons, rushing off for school can be quite hectic in morning, i chosen the afternoon session. You can also try afternoon session so Tim can take a proper breakfast before school. Home schooling is definitely good if you have resources, time and patience. Most importantly, i think you did a great job in having alot of kids attending your playgroup. Otherwise social skills will be a drawback for homeschooler.

I believed academic wise, parents are able to teach, social skill, independences will be form only if kids are allow to explore out there by themself. It would be easier to blend Tim into a mainstream school if he is attending primary school later.

Give yourself a pat on the shoulder for doing a great job in coaching Tim at home and i know you must have put in effort in searching for school. Tim needs time to adjust and adapt, it would normally take 1 - 2 weeks to setttle new routine, especially if it hits their nap time and they feel tired after long session in class.

Rose said...

at least u and him go thru the 1st day and relieve that both of u survive! hahah! Mine went thru well without much hassle. Only me that worry too much about mine! hehehe!

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lifewithc said...

Hi dear

So you've finally done it! Welcome back to the fold of "alternative moms" : )

I'm happy we can continue with the PG this year though there will be fewer of us since some have started school already.

Just putting in my 2 cents worth: socialisation and independence skills don't come only from going to school. A majority of kids here go to school and yet you hear of kids who have problems in these two areas.

I've met plenty of kids who would mumble and can't look at you in the eye when you talk to them. I've seen plenty of rude ones in the MRT. I've also seen kids in their primary school uniforms being fed by their parents in foodcourts!

Clearly, school is not the answer if that's your concern. How we parent plays the crucial part.

We've both met homeschooled kids like Jenny's and Angie's who are very well-adjusted, independent souls and they serve as inspirations for us moms who have chosen to go the less trodden path.

Tim is still very young, there's plenty of time for adjustment even if you do decide to send him to primary school. IMO, adjustment is the same whether you start school at 2 years or 7 years. It's always hard in the beginning.

Let's hold hands together down this path : )

etceteramommy said...

Happy New Year Pauline.

I guess the rest of the mommies said it all here. Mine too started his first day today. He was fine until I left the room. It was very hard for me hearing his cries but I know this is a phase every kid has to go through. I'm praying tomorrow will be a better day. Btw which school did Tim go to? Are you still exploring other school or pretty much decided on home schooling?

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Hannah said...

Trust yourself and stick by your decisions. It is difficult to see our children struggle, but the experience will shape their character for good. I think you are fabulous!

mamabliss said...

Hello Mommies and all who have left a response on this post of mine... I am deeply touched by all your sharing and words of concern... and yes, it's never easy being a parent... so many decisions to make, decisions that would either make or break our child's spirit... decisions that would either make or break our child's future... yes, I have decided to take the alternative route, the route less travelled but I figured it's a route that makes me feel that I am doing the right thing... ;)

Am still praying to God for wisdom, strength and grace to see me through this new journey that we will be travelling along... :)

Kristie said...

dont worry, as time goes by, tim should be more used to it :)

Hann Hann said...

auntie pauline, u've done a great job so far and will continue doing well!

May the Lord continue to guide you and multiply ya wisdom + creativity.

J@n!ce said...

Tim looks smart in the uniform. :):)

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khengyan said...

Hi Pauline,
My second son's 3 this year, like Tim. And unlike his brother, I'll be sending him to school possibly when he's 4.

What does Tim want? Some kids love to wear the uniform and meet friends, but when they see that mummy's not going to be there, they freaked out. If you give up so quickly, what kind of impression are you giving Tim? Decisions that we made will be interpreted by our children in their young minds and set the way they view life. Perhaps the school in not right. Perhaps it's better to re-consider schooling when teachers have settled the kids and have time to manage individual new kids. I do know of mothers who are homeschooling their kids because they can't find a suitable school.

Take care.

.ky.