Thursday, December 11, 2008

Sleep-less Night Part 2

How's our progress since two weeks ago we adopted the Super Nanny's method of tucking Little Missy to bed?

With persistence and consistency it worked! Little Missy finally got the message that she needs to sleep on her own... we had stopped all the sitting next to or lying next to her during bedtime... even my helper was instructed to adopt the same method to keep up with the consistency.

So much for having a good night's rest, ever after? Not quite...
A new challenge arise just 3 days before, she began waking up in the middle of our sleep at approximately 4am (for consecutively 3 days...). We tried milk, water, patting her buttocks... none worked...she screamed and cried for me to carry her... I resisted the urge to plonk her back onto our bed... even though I was extremely tempted to do so... then what do we do cos it's not in Super Nanny's bedtime technique...

Just when I was at my wits' end, I remember reading in the Super Nanny's book about applying the Naughty Step. Oh no, no, no, I don't mean placing Little Missy at a naughty corner in the middle of the night because she wanted me to carry her... rather, the naughty step calls for the parents to be consistent when the child leaves the naughty corner...

Here's where I drew the "wisdom" from -
"One of the biggest problems parents have with the Naughty Step occurs when a child refuses to stay put... if a pattern of bad behaviour is well established, she's not going to give in without a fight...as soon as you place her on the step, or soon afterwards, she's going to get off again...what you need is patience, commitment and perseverance... you put her back on the step, she gets off, you put her back on the step, she gets off, you put her back on the step, she gets off... don't start talking to her or show any reaction to the behaviour. Simply take her back to the step and place her on it again. Say nothing. Every time you return her to the step you demonstrate your consistency, patience and strength of mind. Eventually she will get it!"

That's what we did the past 3 nights...each time she stood up in bed, we lay her back on her bed, telling her to sleep... on the first night it took us an hour of getting up and laying her down many times... second night, it took us 10-15mins... and last night... it took me just 3 tries and she got the message to sleep on her own...

The next struggle we need to tackle is her nap time...till then, to be continued...

7 comments:

Bonnie said...

Aw.. I hope everything will get better and you will have a good sleep soon..

Btw, got a tag for u mama bliss..
http://wirahwanniewatari.blogspot.com/2008/12/fun-google-tag.html


Have a great weekend ya.. =)

lifewithc said...

Hi

yes, yes, yes, consistency is the key. be patient and you will have peaceful blissful nights! give in one night and she will keep pushing your buttons because you gave in that one time.

you are getting there...well done!

Rose said...

Be patient and persistent! She will get used to it soon! Oh boy! Now I wonder when I will start training my gal to sleep on her own in her own bedroom??

Btw, I have a tag for you! Come over!

mamaseah said...

*clap clap* for you for your determination and endurance!! It's really not easy to persist. hmmm wonder when i will have the courage/determination/persistence to transfer both kids to their own bed.

little prince's mummy said...

Hope she hv a great sleep tonite!

blurblur said...

I admire you for your determination and consistency! I still lack the courage of doing so...

Anonymous said...

I feel so bad for you and her. At least you were with her on the nights she woke up instead of letting her cry.
Do try askdrsears.com and search under "sleep" for more tips. Dr Sears' approach is very mild compared to Ferber.